Gayity
Mr. Les B. Frank
Mr Les B. Frank
Your Guidance Counselor for Life
Hey, Mr. Frank!
I’m almost 30 and I have a really good friend who’s a couple years younger than I am. We’re like brothers. At least, I thought so. The other day, he told me he has a crush on me and wants us to have sex. A while back, we talked about taking naked pictures of each other for the hell of it. After he told me he had a crush on me, he was all like, “Let’s take those nude pictures real soon.” We’ve been naked in the same place before like in the locker room and he has a seriously hot body but now I’m thinking that taking the pictures would be weird, especially if I get an erection.
Signed,
Carl
Nashua, NH
Dear Carl,
If you think your friend has a hot body and you’re concerned that you might pop a boner if you’re naked with him, maybe your penis knows something you haven’t admitted to yourself?
Before you drop your jaw, shocked at my suggestion, consider that some gay men actually develop romantic and sexual relationships with guys who first were just friends.
So, consider the possibility that you might be attracted to your friend and that it could be a good thing. You’re probably saying to yourself, “But I don’t want sex to change our friendship.” Too late, since your friend has a crush on you and wants to take action. If you both understand that the transition will have challenges and if you continue to enjoy the friendship component of your relationship, there’s no reason why you can’t explore the possibilities. And send me copies of the photos!
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Hey, Mr. Frank!
I got a webcam for Christmas from my parents so we can see each other when we have conversations over the computer. What’s strange is that I’ve been using it to show guys my body. I’ve been an out lesbian for almost 5 years and I don’t think I’m attracted to men but it’s very exciting to go online and show these straight guys my body and masturbate while they watch.
There is no way I could tell any of my friends what I’m doing but I need some kind of non-judgmental opinion and figured you’d be good for that.
Signed,
Penny
Stamford, VT
Dear Penny,
You’re getting a taste of what my straight male buddies describe as “the power of the pussy.” It can be very exciting to have men looking at your body from a safe distance, being aroused by it and, perhaps, doing what you tell them to do while they watch. Plenty of gay men have been putting on the kind of peek-a-booty shows you describe since the invention of the webcam.
Some charge for the privilege of watching. Others just get off on the exhibitionism of it all. No doubt that’s part of it for you, as well.
Perhaps you are drawn to flashing the flesh for men because of some latent bisexuality. Or, maybe, there are just more horny straight men drooling and bleary-eyed in front of computers than there are lesbians and you’ve tapped into an eager beaver crowd.
Remember, though, that there’s nothing keeping people you know from accidentally (or quite purposefully) stumbling across your little video lap dance. Co-workers, friends and relatives may be visiting the same sites you are and may be in your audience. Bear that in mind before you bare all.
Mr. Les B. Frank offers guidance counseling to people of all ages. He's also chief ball polisher for a men's bowling league. Some letters are edited for length, spelling or grammar. Send your questions and requests for guidance to HeyMrFrank@aol.com